Caring and self-care: Keeping the burnout at bay
Caring and self-care: Keeping the burnout at bay
Caring for an ageing loved one comes with complexities few of us think about until we’re faced with it.
It’s not just the logistical side of things like assisting with health care decisions and navigating the legal aspects of ageing, such as wills, advanced care directives and Enduring Guardianship. Becoming a caregiver can also be physically and emotionally exhausting.
Sometimes, it comes with feelings of guilt or the sense that we should be doing more. And often, the parent-child relationship can be further complicated when the previously independent parent used to making their own decisions now needs support due to declining health and mobility or increasing memory lapses.
While it can be rewarding to care for our parents as they cared for us in childhood, it can also be frustrating and stressful, particularly when combined with other obligations like raising a family and working. For these reasons, it’s not uncommon for caregivers to experience burnout.
If you are caring for another, it is essential that you take care of yourself. Consider these ideas for practicing some self-care while caring for older loved ones:
· Talk with your parents about their changing needs: We can never predict when or if our health will decline, so it’s important to discuss your ageing parents’ wishes regarding their care – the sooner, the better. Write down their wishes for future reference and take dated notes of the things you observe so you can track any changes.
· Create a realistic plan: Assess which needs are being met and get help with the ones that aren’t. This can include sourcing mobility aids, attending medical appointments, or organising regular at-home help.
· Assess your own needs: As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Trying to do it all can take a toll on your own physical and mental health. Be realistic about your own needs and reach out to family members or support services who can take some of the load. Take on only the tasks you are comfortable with.
· Seek support: There are in-person and online support groups available if you need guidance or advice. The Carer Gateway is a good place to start, providing carer-specific services and support nationally to help you in your caring role. Professional counselling is also a good way to talk through your worries and manage stress.
· Eat well: When we are prioritising the needs of others it’s easy to overlook the basics, like nutrition. Make sure to eat a wide variety of foods, including fruit, vegetables, grains, meats or other proteins, and milk or other dairy products. The Australian Guide to Healthy Eating has tips on how to choose foods for good health
Prioritise sleep: Most adults need 7–9 hours of sleep each day, but carers can often find this hard to achieve. Seek advice from your doctor if you’re experiencing difficulties sleeping.
Move your body: You may not have the time for a dedicated fitness routine but some exercise every day is good, even if it is just taking the stairs instead of the lift or standing instead of sitting down. Check out the HealthDirect website has some tips for getting active.
More information on becoming a carer can be found on the My Aged Care website. For assistance navigating the Aged Care system, our Aged Care Solutions team is here to help. Read more about the service here or call 02 6932 3009 for free information and advice.